Grant Gordin, LMFT, MA, M.Ed

"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change." - Carl Rogers


Ultimately, I believe that all people have the right to feel comfortable within their own skin.  In therapy, we so often focus on change, alone.  We talk about changing our lifestyles, our families, our partners, our hobbies, our careers, our schools, and our future goals, all in an effort to fix the problems we see with how things are.  And so often, we reject the notion of acceptance, entirely. Therapy certainly involves exploring and changing certain patterns of behavior and thinking, but I believe in balancing our drive for change with our intrinsic need for acceptance.  We do not necessarily have the power to choose our life situations or the initial feelings we experience when they hit us.  We don't come with an on/off switch, nor the power to control what happens to us.  However, we do have the power to respond: to consider our values and explore our relationship with these distressing events and the feelings that follow.


When it comes to my therapeutic approach, my work is dedicated toward relationships, intimacy, sexuality, and breakups/divorce. I offer open, experienced, and affirming treatment for individuals, couples, and/or groups across all sexualities, genders, and relational styles struggling with issues that interfere with living a fulfilling intimate and relational life.  This list could include struggles with sex, anxiety, worthiness, depression, self-love, shame, grief and loss, disordered eating, trauma, body image, breakups and divorce, family conflict, and interpersonal relationships--the list goes on and on.  The heart of my work is to help you make sense of your challenges, clarify your values, and craft an intimate, joyful, and meaningful life aligned with them.  In balancing acceptance and change, I use an eclectic approach integrating a few different therapeutic modalities: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Narrative Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT).


Finally, and most importantly, my number one job is to help you feel understood in your life and your relationships.  No matter what therapist you choose, the number one most important predictor for success in therapy is the therapeutic relationship between you and the therapist. Every relationship in your life, ours included, has the power to transform you.


Below, you can find out more information about my educational background and clinical experience.  Please feel free to reach out with any questions that you may have.  You may also view some of my professional academic papers here.

Grant Gordin, Sex Therapist, Marriage and Family Therapist Intern, Psychotherapy
Educational Background
Widener University | Chester, PA
M.Ed in Human Sexuality, Sex Therapy Track
Pepperdine University | Malibu, CA
MA in Clinical Psychology With an Emphasis in
Marriage and Family Therapy
Universiteit van AmsterdamAmsterdam, Netherlands
Certificate from the Summer Institute on
Sexuality, Culture, and Society
California State University, Long Beach | Long Beach, CA
BA in Sociology, Concentration in Interaction and Group Relations
Minor in Music
Clinical Experience
Relationship & Sex Therapy | Berkeley, CA
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Private Practice
San Mateo High School | San Mateo, CA
Wellness Counselor, Clinical Staff
Middle College High School at College of San Mateo | San Mateo, CA
Wellness Counselor, Clinical Staff
Youth Service Bureaus of the YMCA | San Mateo, CA
Mental Health Clinician and Program Facilitator, Clinical Staff
The LGBTQ Center of Long Beach | Long Beach, CA
Marriage and Family Therapy Trainee, Clinical Volunteer

Professional Trainings and Continuing Education

Board-Approved Supervisor Training for Marriage and Family Therapists

Presented by Pamela A. Malone, Ph.D., LCSW-S

Blue Lapis Counseling, Online, 2020


Unlearning Racism and Promoting Social Justice Among Therapists

Presented by Kevin Cokley, Ph.D. and Germine Awad, Ph.D.

Deep Eddy Psychotherapy, Online, 2020


Sex, Desire, & Attachment: New Science to Transform Couples' Sex Lives

Presented by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

PESI Inc., Online, 2020


Relational Life Therapy: Level 1 Training

Presented by Terry Real, LCSW

Relational Life Institute, Online, 2018


Conscientious Eating: Mental Health, Inflammation, & the Aging Brain

Presented by Lisa E. Goehler, Ph.D.

Institute for Brain Potential, Pleasanton, CA, 2018


Sexuality & Intimacy with Couples

Presented by Esther Perel, LMFT

The Couples Conference, Oakland, CA, 2018


Getting to the Heart of Couples Therapy

Presented by Esther Perel, LMFT & Terry Real, LCSW

The Couples Conference, Oakland, CA, 2018


The State of Affairs: A New Clinical Approach to Infidelity

Presented by Esther Perel, LMFT

The Couples Conference, Oakland, CA, 2018


Working with Difficult Men: How to Understand & Transform Male Clients

Presented by Terry Real, LCSW

The Couples Conference, Oakland, CA, 2018


Untangling Passive Aggressive Dynamics in Marriage

Presented by Peter Pearson, Ph.D.

The Couples Conference, Oakland, CA, 2018


Working with Polyamorous Clients: Clinical Challenges & Strategies

Presented by Martha Kauppi, LMFT

The Couples Conference, Oakland, CA, 2018


Embracing Vulnerability & Creating Secure Connections in EFT

Presented by San Jinich, Ph.D.

The Couples Conference, Oakland, CA, 2018


Love Addiction in Four Forms: A Workshop

Presented by Helen Fisher, Ph.D.

The Couples Conference, Oakland, CA, 2018


Men & Masculinities: Implications for Clinical Interventions

Presented by Robert Heasley, Ph.D., LMFT & Alex Bove, M.Ed

Widener University, Chester, PA, 2017


Treatment of Sexual Trauma

Presented by Michele Marsh, Ph.D., CST

Widener University, Chester, PA, 2016

Gay Affirmative Therapy: Integrative Strength Based Approach

Presented by Philip Rutter, Ph.D., CST-S

Widener University, Chester, PA, 2016

Perspective on Paraphilias

Presented by Thomas Wood, Ph.D., LCSW, CST

Widener University, Chester, PA, 2016

Not So Strange Love: How I Learned to Stop Worrying & Love the Love

Presented by Annalisa Castaldo, Ph.D. & Alex Bove, M.Ed

Widener University, Chester, PA, 2016


Sexuality & Chronic & Catastrophic Illness

Presented by Sabitha Pillai-Friedman, Ph.D., LCSW, CST-S

Widener University, Chester, PA, 2016


Introduction to Working With Dissociative Identity Disorder

Presented by Christina Mardirossian, LMFT

Pepperdine University, Los Angeles, CA, 2015


Sadomasochistic Behaviors in Sexual Addiction

Presented by Monica Meyer, Ph.D., CSAT-S

Gentle Path at The Meadows, Los Angeles, CA, 2015


Human Sexuality & Sex Therapy

Presented by Mari Marks, Ph.D.

University of Phoenix, Pasadena, CA, 2015


Sex Addiction 101

Presented by Monica Blauner, LCSW, CSAT

Pepperdine University, Malibu, CA, 2015


Surrogate Partner Therapy

Presented by Shai Rotem, CEH, CSP

Center for Healthy Sex, Los Angeles, CA, 2015


Rethinking Couples Therapy: Joining Through the Truth

Presented by Terry Real, LCSW

University of California, Irvine, CA, 2015


Sex, Lies, & Survival: Repairing Primary Attachment Trauma

Presented by Jessica Levith, LMFT

Center for Healthy Sex, Los Angeles, CA, 2015


Helping Couples Heal: Relational Triage for Betrayal Trauma

Presented by Marnie Breecker, LMFT, CSAT, CCPS

Center for Healthy Sex, Los Angeles, CA, 2014


Current Eating Disorder Technological Research & Treatment Implications

Presented by Rebecca Cooper, LMFT, LPCC, CEDS

Pepperdine University, Los Angeles, CA, 2014


Illustrating Trauma: Using the Trauma Egg to Reveal & Heal Your Past

Presented by Shereen Hariri, LMFT

Center for Healthy Sex, Los Angeles, CA, 2014

How to Treat Pornography Addiction: Gay & Straight Perspectives

Presented by Greg Woodhill, LMFT, CSAT

Center for Healthy Sex, Los Angeles, CA, 2014


Assessment, Diagnosis, & Treatment of Sex Addiction

Presented by Aaron Alan, LMFT, CSAT

Pepperdine University, Malibu, CA, 2014

Gay Men & Sex Addiction: A Different Treatment Approach

Presented by Dan Lacovara, MA

Center for Healthy Sex, Los Angeles, CA, 2014

Doing Relationships Right: Balancing the Masculine & Feminine Energies

Presented by Sharon Cohen, Ph.D.

Center for Healthy Sex, Los Angeles, CA, 2013

Attachment, Sexuality, & the Body: Comprehensive Couples & Sex Therapy

Presented by Stella Resnick, Ph.D., CST

UCLA Extension, Los Angeles, CA, 2013